I Forgot About Me

I Forgot About Me

Tween Times I’ve been mistaken about gratitude. You’d learn, if you were to read my gratitude journal, that I appreciate yellow fall leaves, green traffic lights, and the texture and taste of Nutella. You’d learn that I love hearing children laugh, watching two people...
Punishing vs Collaborating

Punishing vs Collaborating

Tween Times I’m grateful to my readers! A number of parents responded to the last newsletter, concerned that punishment was not mentioned in collaborating. What should they do to Jane when she blows off her homework and fails History; or to Rachel when bedtime becomes...
Less of Me, More of We

Less of Me, More of We

Tween Times Adolescents are eager to separate themselves from their moms and dads. It’s a normal part of their development, not a judgement. They don’t want to feel powerless. In fact, they love feeling autonomous: having choices and feeling in control. This is why, I...
Why I Love Bedtime

Why I Love Bedtime

Tween Times Tucking in my tween is a wonderful time for Affirming him Showing physical affection Taking turns talking sharing gratitudes Saying ‘I love You.” Listening to feelings, plans, ideas Laughing at silly things Relaxing in comfort Reading a book together...
Adulting vs. Adolescenting

Adulting vs. Adolescenting

Tween Times Adulting. When you are young and looking up the road of life, the concept of being “grown up” enchants you. It glows invitingly through your naive and eager eyes. Its freedom entices you. Its independence beguiles you. Its autonomy mesmerizes you. This...
Rocking Your Summer with Your Tween

Rocking Your Summer with Your Tween

JoAnn Schauf Okay, this may sound dreary and boring, but you will love the results. Set summer expectations. Here’s what I’m thinking. Get up time and go to bed time can be tricky and garner pushback from your tween. Why do it? Because you need quality...