A friend of mine, Jill, struggles with shame and guilt over several bad choices she made in the last few years. They had major consequences for her career. She’s angry with herself— “How could I have messed things up so badly for myself and my family” she cries. She wakes up every morning feeling bad about herself and it propels her down a rabbit hole of deeper depression and self-reproach. Once she goes there, it’s hard to find her way out.
We all make small mistakes or errors in judgment. Fortunately, most of these choices don’t result in big consequences. But sometimes we make whoppers, and the unanticipated results can be vast. In those instances, adults can become immobilized by guilt and humiliation….